Emotional Memory

    When we are born, our brains are not completely developed and this must be completed outside of the womb. This so that we can pass through the limited birth canal. Elephants do this as well because of the size of their heads, while a horse's head is shaped much differently and they are born ready to go within hours.

    One of the things we develop outside of the body is the Frontal lobe, which is responsible for memory. This makes sense since there is little need for memory at birth. The Frontal lobe completes its development after approximately two years and we be begin to amass memories.

    However, this doesn't mean that trauma isn't remembered emotionally before the age of two. It is remembered emotionally. So is love and protection, or the lack thereof. For better or worse, this creates an emotional responses to situations, which are not remembered and therefore uncorrectable without knowledge of the individual's first two years of life.

    If a child was abused in some way during that time, they might react violently to perceived abuse as an adult, without even knowing why they reacted in this way. Obviously, this is problematic and might represent the source of many psychological problems we see in adults. Each much be treated individually and some answers may lie in the unconscious. We may need to  give these people lots of therapy, or they might end up institutionalized which in 2020 America, sadly means prison.

    I once knew a man who punched anyone in the face if they yawned. Everyone knew this, but me. until I yawned (fortunately, I was unharmed). But, I could tell he wanted to hit me. He just couldn't do it in my house. I was told of my infraction and I asked him why he did this. It didn't seem to be productive and now he had this weird reputation. He answered that he wasn't really sure, but he saw it as an insult, as if he was somehow boring. I explained to him that I wasn't bored, instead I yawned simply to get more oxygen to my brain; possibly so I could pay more attention to him. Once I explained the physiology of yawning, he stopped punching people, because he no longer saw yawning as an insult anymore. I think he was the victim of Proximal Abandonment in which the parents were present, but they generally ignored him at some point during his first two years. His punching was an attention seeking behavior meant to overcome the abandonment he probably experienced, but doesn't remember. I didn't see him much after that and I don't know if he adopted a different attention seeking behavior or not. But, he probably did.

    The lack of attention given to children, especially at this tender age explains much of the attention seeking behavior we see today. We like attention and sometimes it reaches pathological levels.We have just endured four years of this from our leadership. Did this happen as a result of women joining the workforce? Impoverished parents working two jobs? Warehousing children in daycare? In Denmark, they just expanded parental leave to nine months for parents because of psychological considerations. 

    I can think of only one solution to this problem. That is to love, protect, and keep healthy all children until the age of two because on some level they will remember any shortcomings that occurred during that time, without actually consciously remembering them. If this were somehow achieved I believe we could cut mental health issues in half. Otherwise, we will have people in our society who react violently to triggers they themselves are unaware of. 

    This is a decision for the entire society to make and commit to. The rewards will be slow to see. But, when you are old this generation won't abandon you. if they are raised correctly. We understand this now as seen by the actions of the Danes. Therefore, inaction is inefficient and irresponsible. The Human Condition itself can be changed into the Human Experience by making changes such as this.

    We only have to want to change it and do the work.

     

 

                                                        Justice Vs. Fairness

                  I have often wondered why people will sometimes sacrifice their lives for justice. Survival is a top priority and yet in some cases the need for justice overcomes even that. We even celebrate this. From the Hatfields and McCoys to the Civil War, which for some odd reason, still lingers. In these cases, justice has been used to explain the phenomenon. However to Emolve, we need to recognize that justice has moral components, which can change over time or be different ,within different groups. And yet, it happens everywhere. Therefore we need to think about using the word fairness to accurately explain this phenomenon. 

                 In studies with primates, they exhibited a strong need for fairness. When unequal rewards are given for the same amount of work. The aggrieved individual became angry. In one study it took only one incidence of unfairness to completely undo the aggrieved party.

                We are not primates, but we are both animals and we share similar DNA. Regardless, we humans do the same thing. It might not be as unrestrained or even acknowledged, but we remember and sometimes we seek revenge in order to level the playing field.

               This trait has huge implications for the future, if income inequality continues to separate us. The public schools have been ravaged and the "American Dream" seems impossible to many. This seems unfair to many and this must be addressed to ensure the security of everyone because of this phenomenon. 

              The wealthy appear to be prepared to separate themselves from the rest of society; taking huge amounts of resources with them. They think this will provide them safety from climate change or another possible cataclysm and to some degree it will. At least on paper. They do this at their own peril. I don't envision them doing this so they can cook and clean for themselves and they will need workers of all kinds and those workers have family and friends. They may have strong relationships that are unseen, so I wish them luck; maintaining their power. The electricians and water providers will eventually be running these "paradises." 

             There would also be external threats from those willing to die for fairness.    

             To stabilize a society, fairness must be considered for even the most prepared. Unless they have a spaceship, people's need for fairness will undo their efforts. Its easy enough. Re-establish the "American Dream" as something available and feasible to all. 

             I wonder, how much does a person need?

Our Consciousness

                                                  Our Consciousness 

     I remember when I first discussed it with my friend, Doc. He had an incredible "sense of knowing." He described it as a golden egg and God could easily see it. But, if we soiled it, then it became harder for God to see. If we soiled it too much then it couldn't be seen at all. His thinking was clearly influenced by Christianity, but it suggested that the size was fixed.   

    I have often wondered if size of our consciousness is fixed or if it can grow? Even more staggering is asking, "What is it made of"? It was been suggested that when people die, they lose three ounces in weight. This would suggest that it has some mass. Can it grow through consciousness raising or are only more of it? Personally, I have had moments when it seemed to expand and I assumed it was flexible. However, it is impossible to know the answer to this. It really doesn't matter at this point, since we have a lot of unused space and in either case... the opportunity to improve ourselves. 

    If the size if one's consciousness is fixed then the process of consciousness raising would actually be about consciousness utilization. The notions about the amount of our brains that we use; suggests there is a lot more potential than we know. Expansion would be the mechanism responsible for consciousness raising and might be the preferred word.   

    Currently, consciousness raising has been the term used for elevating one's consciousness. The goal being  then joy or serenity and possibly enlightenment. (see levels of consciousness) In this process, the lowest points are shame and guilt. They produce nothing positive for the individual. In a few cases, guilt might motivate one to right the ship. But, this his uncommon. These are the most negative and then there is apathy, anger, etc; all of which are somewhat predictive of negativity. The wild card comes at the highest negative level: Pride. This is the highest of the negative levels, and the hardest to overcome; because it precludes the open mindedness necessary for further growth. Pride brings a false sense of certainty about all things. Pride could power the world and it is everywhere. We have even used it as a replacement for self esteem. This explains why so many people seem to be insecure on the  inside. Pride can be taken, while self esteem cannot.

    Open mindedness represents the beginning of the positive levels; followed by rationality and eventually leading to serenity. This process goes hand in hand with Emolvement. Books are available about this and this is a wonderful opportunity for you to further engage with your unconscious by showing it the necessary determination and consistency it needs, to come forward. It will also give you more concepts to evaluate. If you are eating this, you almost certainly openminded.

    However, all of the books I have seen stress benevolence. What if this process is tied to your belief system? If that is true then one might raise their consciousness by doing things we would consider to be bad. I hate to admit this might be true, based on their being some sort of balance in the Universe. However this doesn't seem to fit as negative or destructive behavior are self destructive. But, as humans here on Earth, the positive route is much preferred. A negative route would result in breaking our social contract and result in jail, or death. But again, it would all be dependent on the laws and social contracts on the residents; depending on their values and belief systems. Cannibalism was practiced in places where it corresponded to their beliefs and values. It might still exist in remote parts of the world, if there is such a thing anymore. One could be excused for wondering if cannibalism was practiced like a craft or even profession; perfecting the act could be consciousness raising.

  The way we use our consciousness may impact our future lives, too. Beings with a lower consciousness are generally unable to change theirs. What can a cow or fish do to raise their consciousness? I doubt there is anything they can do since they usually have a simple program with a few sub routines for mating, evading danger and possibly even dying. Salmon do and many insects even eat their mates. In these cases, their unconscious mind only exists to keep the body running. 

    We see our pets dream and like horses, they might be able to expand their consciousness. Dolphins and elephants appear to be very intelligent and they might be able to raise theirs and possibly reincarnate into a human body or another body elsewhere in the Universe. But where is their opportunity? Dolphins (actually Porpoises) have saved humans from sharks and even drowning. There are many species who have inexplicably come to the aid of a human. But these opportunities are extremely rare for them. However, most agree the resulting incarnation is the result of your behavior. If we are like Doc's golden egg; we might not reincarnate at all, if we soil it too much to be seen.   

    I believe that there is consciousness in all things. It might be part of the mystery of "Dark" matter. Regardless, this creates a situation in which there are bits of unassigned or unimprinted consciousness. If one can expand the size of their consciousness, at some point it will attract this unimprinted consciousness and become self sustaining: even after death. Here since there is balance in the universe, giving may be consciousness increasing. It may explain the focus on giving and benevolence in all religious texts.

    Most of the world believes in reincarnation, even Christianity suggests an afterlife. Where does your consciousness go? Wouldn't going to heaven be a type of reincarnation? The evidence is all around us. We only need to think in metaphors. Heaven and hell are like many of the ideas we find in old Religious texts. Once we recognize that they are speaking to us by using metaphors; we see that they are all speaking about reincarnation. After all, Heaven isn't really doable. I can't be in more than one and what if my parents, brother and a few friends want me in theirs? Even if somehow my mind went split screen, I would be overwhelmed. I just don't see it as a real possibility. I don't see 70 or so virgins waiting for each Viking who died in battle, either. But as metaphors they each tie in nicely with the idea of reincarnation. After all, how could your body exist anywhere, but in the ground.

    As a metaphor, Hell might be either reincarnating at a lower size or possibly not at all. Paradise, Valhalla, and Heaven are all metaphors. But, they are derived from the truth. In addition, they all suggest that a rugged adherence to a specific belief system be rewarded by increasing the size of your consciousness. Therefore, in all cases, this suggests that acting for the greater good is positive for your long term future (next life). For those who act for the greater good, there is a karmic reward. 

    The human consciousness is somewhat malleable. It is connected to the unconscious mind, which can grow and is extremely underutilized. When we begin to utilize the unconscious mind; the resulting growth appears to be almost limitless. However, we must maintain our benevolence. Otherwise, we would destroy each other in a giant game of King of the Mountain. In this game the eventual winner always finds themself alone. Secondly, while these skills might be helpful in this lifetime; they might not be best for your future. As you grow, so does your responsibility to society and others. To do anything else would be to deny this gift and defy those ancient teachings and values, which sprang spontaneously in different parts of the world.

    What is the role of the unconsciousness is this? This cannot be known, but it is participating if you have revived it enough. I feel confident in that. The unconscious mind is our new superpower and it only need to be activated. 

    I just had a meditation in which I had an idea about the makeup of consciousness itself. I see it as small molecules that exist everywhere. We just haven't discovered them. They even exist in the air, as un-imprinted consciousness. It is attracted to the DNA of all living things, animating them from the beginning of their existence. The amount of consciousness that goes into an organism is limited by the DNA, much like a lint roll as it can only pick up lint until the the unused space is covered. Because it exists everywhere, small amounts can be found in the soil and even rocks. I believe Jesus alluded to this phenomenon when he suggested that rocks could sing. I believe that when the rocks were formed many of these molecules were embedded. I also believe that they exist as a component of so called dark matter. This too is everywhere. It has been suggested that at the time of death, people lose approximately three ounces of weight. This would suggest that it has mass and is therefore something tangible. This bootstrap hypothesis would also explain that mysterious connection between us; especially those close to use. All too often, we think about someone and they suddenly call. Some even feel the death of others far away. I believe this information travels through the surrounding un-imprinted consciousness that exists around us. I also believe it travels at approximately the speed of sound since it goes through tangible  molecules. 

    

        

    

    

 

 

    

Benevolence

                                                             

                                                                Benevolence

    I don't know if I picked this up as a value of if it's the way I was built. But, I try to practice it whenever possible. I don't steal and try not to lie. Lying is sometimes for the best, but the result is unknown: just as much as telling the truth. So, I prefer the truth even if it hurts to say or hear. That's me and I understand that there is no good or bad to it. As society leans into ever more competition; being benevolent isn't an easy strategy. Things will be taken and people will take my benevolence as weakness. Yet, I have rarely felt intimidated even with physical violence. I have always thought my focus on benevolence disarmed any threat and I've been in Shanty Towns in Jamaica and one twenty fifth street in

    Yet, I have qualms about how much benevolence will exist after introducing Emolvement. It was designed to help individuals to grow and improve themselves. However, this process isn't tied to benevolence and social contracts and this is worrisome. Selfishness is something to be conquered and this could result in an increase in that trait. Other's who haven't emolved could be manipulated by those who have. Therefore, we will have to rely on the power of benevolence to continue. 

    Benevolence itself, is a trait we have adopted by mutual agreement. We don't put people who give their money away in jail; we name buildings after them. We have jails for the most malevolent. But, this OUR belief system. Eating other people is hugely stigmatized and would certainly be punished. A cannibal would find this system horrifying. He believes his brother will now live in him now that he has had a bite.  

    Benevolence has power. There is a sort of balance in these moral matters. These are a bit like the force in Star Wars movies. As the levels of benevolence wane, those who still practice it will be more powerful. Unfortunately this is wishful thinking. This dynamic only applies to balance in the universe and not on a planetary level.

    It is useful when exploring different cultures, but that isn't definitive. It only seems prudent when interacting with an unknown culture. 

    The expression, "No good deed goes unpunished is one of the expressions that is clear and it is often true. I could percolate on the possible reasons for that for a long time. Using Occam's Razor, I could conclude that it is only the positive energy attracting the negative. Even that is unclear, since like attract's like; complicating even this simple conclusion.   

    When I first began to write about Emolvement as a casual concept. I was stepping back to evaluate the way we behave. I saw so much potential; drowning for no reason. Our confusion of language, racism and I could go on and on. If we only loved our brother as we loved ourselves. But we are too busy with our children, jobs and social obligations; we have no time for reflection. 

    Then, I had the strangest thought, I had an idea that I had almost wrangled out of my mind. At the time, I had been up for three days and hadn't eaten. It was time to go to sleep. But this idea seemed so important that I remember thinking that I might die if I didn't get it out before then. This idea seemed so important that I didn't even know what it was, but I was willing to risk my life for it. Then it came and I immediately wrote it down. Then a bolt of lightning struck outside of my window: knocking me to the floor. I ran to my bedroom and slid under my covers and soon fell asleep. It was simple, but I can't find any copies of it. fortunately I have the first half that I found embedded in another poem:

      "Negative energy destroys its source. It must spread. It isn't self nurturing. Lock two people who dislike each other in a room; they will destroy each other. It is dependent on outside energy making it insecure. So, it comes on with all its fury. But if one is aware of this they will see no reason to fear. One can endure for themselves and also stop the infection of the larger population." The rest dealt with positive energy as being more like a steady stream that flows easily and without effort if you maintain positive energy.

    This power is undefinable to me, but I know it exists. I understand some of the traits of the negative energy. I have learned to laugh when bad things happen, Otherwise I will attract more negative energy. Nothing makes negative energy more unhappy, when its actions result in laughter. If you reach the point of laughing, it will actually become funny and more laughter will follow. 

   I believe some of these energies could actually be conscious or have attractors. They may come from elsewhere in the Universe; possibly even from the unconscious mind or from some other dimension. There are probably so many different ways it can affect us that they cant be explained. But, both positive and negative exist. 

    Most religions depict some unnatural events and energies. I love the TV show: Ancient Aliens when they ask, "Will they come back." This show has been on for 15 years and they have shown remarkable proof that we were once visited and yet, they still ask. They have never considered that they never left. Be they intertimensolal beings or ???? Understanding of the universe is beyond your imagination's imagination and anything is possible.

    I wish I knew more, but I have seen this dynamic at play for over 30 years and benevolence the source doesn't matter, since its unreachable. But, our actions have consequences beyond the obvious. 

    Our consciousness decisions eventually manifest themselves in our reincarnation. Even those with negative belief systems often become concerned about their fate as they near death; knowing that on some level it will affect their reincarnation or afterlife.   

    I imagine a culture in which this side of us is encouraged. It would create a new class of humans in which they might be telepathic and telekinetic. But, this might encourage selfishness at the expense of the greater good.

    I have also imagined a far greater society of benevolence using some of these methods. To maintain social order, they spend entire lifetimes on planets full of disfunction, so that when they return, they have a vivivd memory of what could happen when the social good is ignored. 

    Everything here; the ides about good and bad are all relative and dependent on our environment and most importantly, our belief systems. Our belief systems determine what is good and bad on a societal level. Individuals usually choose to follow suit. Herds of animals have a high level of mirror neurons in their brains. This how they move in unison. Interestingly, humans have them also. not nearly as many as the herds, but we have them nonetheless. These combined with our connection with each other through the collective unconscious of your social contacts.

 

    

Emotions

Oh, What Feeling?

Regarding emotions; there are thousands of books videos and conferences available for us to understand them and almost as many experts. I am not and the best thing I can do is to share some thoughts that you might find useful in your search for growth and happiness.

It seems as if whenever I feel a particular way, it is as if I have always felt that way and always will in the future. If it's something negative, I have learned to take a step back and remember this. Then when my emotions or feelings change; I see that isn’t true. This is why I think that sometimes depression results in a feeling of hopelessness. When I feel down, I project that onto my past, present and future. The same is true for those times when I feel good. I project that feeling across my lifetime as well. We need balance and we may be able to consciously contribute to that through Intentional Meditation and even visualization.

Consider this: Is it possible to break the cycle of depression or any other negative feelings just by the recognition of this phenomenon? Possibly, but it seems impossible for people to see this when we are in a dark place. We often need outside help to reset our viewpoint. It may be possible to think about this more when we are feeling good; so that we might remember this when things aren’t going so well. We need to realize that the all of our feelings are usually temporary and we can even change them; utilizing Intentional meditation, also known as self-hypnosis.

Our moods are very dependent upon the individual situation. No one has studied the range and frequency of emotional changes throughout the day. It is almost impossible to do. The study itself would be biased, just by the act of stopping ourselves to document every change. I imagine that there might be over a hundred mood changes in a person, during just one day. I know that personally, it seems like I can change that many times during a the first half of basketball game.

Most of us know this on some level. We are constantly attempting to improve our moods, or stabilize them, but we don’t seem to recognize that we can also project them onto situations and therefore, ourselves. We may also attract energy, either positive or negative, reinforcing any given current state. This makes conscious intervention necessary.

Generally, we all want to feel good and that feeling is relative to where we are. A shower is a shower is a shower, until I go camping for a week. Then a shower is a beautiful thing. Food and water are the same way. When I haven’t eaten for a few days, anything tastes great. After a few days, the special feeling produced by a shower or a meal fades. Therefore, we cannot associate any particular feeling with a particular event with certainty. The recipe for happiness changes as your situation does. What are we to do... to be happy? Are there physiological reasons that contribute to our feelings? Most physicians and scientists would say so. We have many drugs to improve mood but they are a hit or miss proposition and usually, they are not sustainable.

What if people could change their physiology through Intentional meditation? If we can heal ourselves with visualization then why can’t we increase the production of certain receptors and chemicals, such as Serotonin, through the same technique? This would require that we know more specific information; such as what receptors and chemicals are available and what do they do. This can usually be found on the internet.

We could also use Intentional Meditation. A simple phrase such as “I am…happy” while Meditatating may help. The more this is done, the more your unconscious will respond. It probably knows the problem; it may just need to see some level of commitment to act in case to ensure this isn't a transitory goal. We change our desires so often, the unconscious mind has been on the sidelines since you were young. For this reason, the unconscious needs certainty and consistency before it acts.

Can we actually take responsibility for our moods? Do we even want to?  They are a good excuse for our mistakes. Some of use drugs to change or moderate them, but that adds another variable which might only confuse you even more, while others are just naturally happy most of the time. The act of defining a specific emotion can even be confusing to some people. When people speak of love, they are often speaking about something else. Lust or a need for stability may be called love. But it's just lust or insecurity relieved.

I believe our anger can be controlled and if that is true then anything can be. When we are confronted with an anger provoking situation, our emotions react quickly and they subjugates the intellect to support them. So the anger remains and the mind works to justify and maintain it. However, if the intellect arrives on the scene first, it can subjugate our emotions; keeping our anger under control. I have worked on this and have had modest success. Often because I forget that I can control it.

This brings up all kinds of other issues to evaluate such as; can we feel good without feeling bad, or would managing our emotion even be possible? I don’t know, but it seems to be worth consideration given the influence our emotions have on our lives. Do we even want to change them at all, since they are a large part of us? My first impulse is that we shouldn’t. But when I look at the cause of them in myself; I see that many are the result of random events; so why shouldn’t I control them. I shouldn’t react to situations based upon a single experience, but sometimes I do, especially if it was threatening or harmful; so my emotional can be biased and I need to be aware of that, too. The answers to these questions will be important to our future Emolvement.

Emotions 2.0

Emotions Revisited

Thinking about computers, I noticed that as I have started to manage my emotions; I have become more rational. According to Hawkins (see Levels of Consciousness) this step of rationality represents a higher level of consciousness. However, he indicates that we must accept our emotions again to grow further. Recognizing our humanity may make it easier to forgive ourselves and others: something I find hard to do sometimes. 

                The idea of being both rational and emotional seems to be in conflict. However, if we decide to manage our emotions we can find a wonderful balance. We can feel our emotions, while still being rational and human. It is our unintended reactions to stress provoking situations that must be changed. Some get angry and punch walls or worse. It happens so fast, that the reaction appears as if it hasn’t been thought out. There are many automatic reactions to emotions. 

                Sometimes they come from our emotional memory. This is formed from conception to age two, before we develop our frontal lobes which give us the capacity for conscious memory. Therefore in some situations we react emotionally without even knowing why. This suggests that this time period is critical to the development of a mature human and those younger than three must be given a safe, healthy and loving environment to minimize negative emotional memories.

                If we look at the random appearance of emotions and add to that our almost random reaction to them; I wonder how best to proceed. I don’t like the behaviors and feelings that I have due to someone else’s programs, but can I restructure them to be of my choosing? For example, what if I chose to program myself to be happy when I think it’s appropriate? Can I do that? I know it's possible. I have already been programmed by society to feel good when I get and spend money; even if it is for something I don’t need. I feel good when I acquire assets. These are temporary states of euphoria and happiness and they take precedence over longer term rewards that come from giving and compassion.                  

                To fully embrace our selves we must also embrace our emotions and to improve the outcomes of our efforts, we must learn forgiveness. We must do this for ourselves as well as others. We are human and we make mistakes. By the time I had reached the age of twenty-one, I had made many mistakes and I continued to do so. I had to rationally accept them and I had to forgive myself. After all, I’m only human.

                 To make changes in the actions I perform and yet I dislike some kind of reprogramming is necessary. I have used Intentional meditation for what had previously been referred to as self hypnosis. Instead of a mantra, synchronize your breathing with "I will" or "I am" when breathing in and then inserting the desired change when exhaling. One can insert happy, patient, calm or anything to be changed. In Biblical times breath was equated with the holy spirit, so it is important to keep it synchronized.     

    

Why do We Lean at Football Games?

Why Do We Lean at Football Games?

I have found this to be a fun question to ask. At many sporting events, people will lean to make a field goal attempt go through the uprights. We also lean to make golf balls move. Interestingly, the coaches and players seem to lean the most. It appears that all people gyrate while watching practically any sport with a ball or similar object in play, in order to manipulate an inanimate object. I think this is odd given that there are no measurable results for this behavior. Sporting events are the only environment in which this behavior is acceptable. We don’t gyrate for results at the office, for example. Usually.

We act as though we are telekinetic when we are at sporting events. The whole crowd tries to influence the ball by leaning or other movements. Children also do it in street games. It appears as if this behavior is innate. If it is, then where does it come from? It isn’t directly taught since we are unaware of it, so what is the reason we do it? Are our children just mimicking what they see?

It could be suggested that this is something we do as a result of our ego. We want to be part of the game in some way so we “help” by leaning. This contribution makes us a part of the team. Unfortunately, we also seem to do this when we are alone, so this rational might not apply. The solitary golfer will also lean to push the ball into the hole. Therefore. this may just be part of the answer, 

It could also be an example of genetic memory. This would suggest that this ability lies within our genes. If this is true, it would suggest that we were once able to move objects with our minds or will be able to in the future. This would make it a currently undiscovered ability.

A third explanation is that this is the beginning of our ability to become telekinetic. These actions may somehow start to work. This would be the beginning of an Emolvement in us. Especially, when people learn to see the ball go into the hole through visualization. Later, will we visualize to make our paperwork or other tools and materials go where we want them to, just by thought? I have no idea but to me this behavior represents that something is happening here.

Finally, it may simply be desire. But, the universality of this action appears to rule that out.

If this behavior isn’t a skill waiting for us to discover; will we create this ability by constantly trying? One might argue that we may manifest this ability because this is a skill we desire. It may be more a question of when rather than if.

The answers will appear over time, but I think this is a fun question to ask ourselves. It’s great for social events with open minded guests and someone might actually know the answer. Like all blogs I would love to hear from you.