Benevolence

                                                             

                                                                Benevolence

    I don't know if I picked this up as a value of if it's the way I was built. But, I try to practice it whenever possible. I don't steal and try not to lie. Lying is sometimes for the best, but the result is unknown: just as much as telling the truth. So, I prefer the truth even if it hurts to say or hear. That's me and I understand that there is no good or bad to it. As society leans into ever more competition; being benevolent isn't an easy strategy. Things will be taken and people will take my benevolence as weakness. Yet, I have rarely felt intimidated even with physical violence. I have always thought my focus on benevolence disarmed any threat and I've been in Shanty Towns in Jamaica and one twenty fifth street in

    Yet, I have qualms about how much benevolence will exist after introducing Emolvement. It was designed to help individuals to grow and improve themselves. However, this process isn't tied to benevolence and social contracts and this is worrisome. Selfishness is something to be conquered and this could result in an increase in that trait. Other's who haven't emolved could be manipulated by those who have. Therefore, we will have to rely on the power of benevolence to continue. 

    Benevolence itself, is a trait we have adopted by mutual agreement. We don't put people who give their money away in jail; we name buildings after them. We have jails for the most malevolent. But, this OUR belief system. Eating other people is hugely stigmatized and would certainly be punished. A cannibal would find this system horrifying. He believes his brother will now live in him now that he has had a bite.  

    Benevolence has power. There is a sort of balance in these moral matters. These are a bit like the force in Star Wars movies. As the levels of benevolence wane, those who still practice it will be more powerful. Unfortunately this is wishful thinking. This dynamic only applies to balance in the universe and not on a planetary level.

    It is useful when exploring different cultures, but that isn't definitive. It only seems prudent when interacting with an unknown culture. 

    The expression, "No good deed goes unpunished is one of the expressions that is clear and it is often true. I could percolate on the possible reasons for that for a long time. Using Occam's Razor, I could conclude that it is only the positive energy attracting the negative. Even that is unclear, since like attract's like; complicating even this simple conclusion.   

    When I first began to write about Emolvement as a casual concept. I was stepping back to evaluate the way we behave. I saw so much potential; drowning for no reason. Our confusion of language, racism and I could go on and on. If we only loved our brother as we loved ourselves. But we are too busy with our children, jobs and social obligations; we have no time for reflection. 

    Then, I had the strangest thought, I had an idea that I had almost wrangled out of my mind. At the time, I had been up for three days and hadn't eaten. It was time to go to sleep. But this idea seemed so important that I remember thinking that I might die if I didn't get it out before then. This idea seemed so important that I didn't even know what it was, but I was willing to risk my life for it. Then it came and I immediately wrote it down. Then a bolt of lightning struck outside of my window: knocking me to the floor. I ran to my bedroom and slid under my covers and soon fell asleep. It was simple, but I can't find any copies of it. fortunately I have the first half that I found embedded in another poem:

      "Negative energy destroys its source. It must spread. It isn't self nurturing. Lock two people who dislike each other in a room; they will destroy each other. It is dependent on outside energy making it insecure. So, it comes on with all its fury. But if one is aware of this they will see no reason to fear. One can endure for themselves and also stop the infection of the larger population." The rest dealt with positive energy as being more like a steady stream that flows easily and without effort if you maintain positive energy.

    This power is undefinable to me, but I know it exists. I understand some of the traits of the negative energy. I have learned to laugh when bad things happen, Otherwise I will attract more negative energy. Nothing makes negative energy more unhappy, when its actions result in laughter. If you reach the point of laughing, it will actually become funny and more laughter will follow. 

   I believe some of these energies could actually be conscious or have attractors. They may come from elsewhere in the Universe; possibly even from the unconscious mind or from some other dimension. There are probably so many different ways it can affect us that they cant be explained. But, both positive and negative exist. 

    Most religions depict some unnatural events and energies. I love the TV show: Ancient Aliens when they ask, "Will they come back." This show has been on for 15 years and they have shown remarkable proof that we were once visited and yet, they still ask. They have never considered that they never left. Be they intertimensolal beings or ???? Understanding of the universe is beyond your imagination's imagination and anything is possible.

    I wish I knew more, but I have seen this dynamic at play for over 30 years and benevolence the source doesn't matter, since its unreachable. But, our actions have consequences beyond the obvious. 

    Our consciousness decisions eventually manifest themselves in our reincarnation. Even those with negative belief systems often become concerned about their fate as they near death; knowing that on some level it will affect their reincarnation or afterlife.   

    I imagine a culture in which this side of us is encouraged. It would create a new class of humans in which they might be telepathic and telekinetic. But, this might encourage selfishness at the expense of the greater good.

    I have also imagined a far greater society of benevolence using some of these methods. To maintain social order, they spend entire lifetimes on planets full of disfunction, so that when they return, they have a vivivd memory of what could happen when the social good is ignored. 

    Everything here; the ides about good and bad are all relative and dependent on our environment and most importantly, our belief systems. Our belief systems determine what is good and bad on a societal level. Individuals usually choose to follow suit. Herds of animals have a high level of mirror neurons in their brains. This how they move in unison. Interestingly, humans have them also. not nearly as many as the herds, but we have them nonetheless. These combined with our connection with each other through the collective unconscious of your social contacts.

 

    

Emotions

Oh, What Feeling?

Regarding emotions; there are thousands of books videos and conferences available for us to understand them and almost as many experts. I am not and the best thing I can do is to share some thoughts that you might find useful in your search for growth and happiness.

It seems as if whenever I feel a particular way, it is as if I have always felt that way and always will in the future. If it's something negative, I have learned to take a step back and remember this. Then when my emotions or feelings change; I see that isn’t true. This is why I think that sometimes depression results in a feeling of hopelessness. When I feel down, I project that onto my past, present and future. The same is true for those times when I feel good. I project that feeling across my lifetime as well. We need balance and we may be able to consciously contribute to that through Intentional Meditation and even visualization.

Consider this: Is it possible to break the cycle of depression or any other negative feelings just by the recognition of this phenomenon? Possibly, but it seems impossible for people to see this when we are in a dark place. We often need outside help to reset our viewpoint. It may be possible to think about this more when we are feeling good; so that we might remember this when things aren’t going so well. We need to realize that the all of our feelings are usually temporary and we can even change them; utilizing Intentional meditation, also known as self-hypnosis.

Our moods are very dependent upon the individual situation. No one has studied the range and frequency of emotional changes throughout the day. It is almost impossible to do. The study itself would be biased, just by the act of stopping ourselves to document every change. I imagine that there might be over a hundred mood changes in a person, during just one day. I know that personally, it seems like I can change that many times during a the first half of basketball game.

Most of us know this on some level. We are constantly attempting to improve our moods, or stabilize them, but we don’t seem to recognize that we can also project them onto situations and therefore, ourselves. We may also attract energy, either positive or negative, reinforcing any given current state. This makes conscious intervention necessary.

Generally, we all want to feel good and that feeling is relative to where we are. A shower is a shower is a shower, until I go camping for a week. Then a shower is a beautiful thing. Food and water are the same way. When I haven’t eaten for a few days, anything tastes great. After a few days, the special feeling produced by a shower or a meal fades. Therefore, we cannot associate any particular feeling with a particular event with certainty. The recipe for happiness changes as your situation does. What are we to do... to be happy? Are there physiological reasons that contribute to our feelings? Most physicians and scientists would say so. We have many drugs to improve mood but they are a hit or miss proposition and usually, they are not sustainable.

What if people could change their physiology through Intentional meditation? If we can heal ourselves with visualization then why can’t we increase the production of certain receptors and chemicals, such as Serotonin, through the same technique? This would require that we know more specific information; such as what receptors and chemicals are available and what do they do. This can usually be found on the internet.

We could also use Intentional Meditation. A simple phrase such as “I am…happy” while Meditatating may help. The more this is done, the more your unconscious will respond. It probably knows the problem; it may just need to see some level of commitment to act in case to ensure this isn't a transitory goal. We change our desires so often, the unconscious mind has been on the sidelines since you were young. For this reason, the unconscious needs certainty and consistency before it acts.

Can we actually take responsibility for our moods? Do we even want to?  They are a good excuse for our mistakes. Some of use drugs to change or moderate them, but that adds another variable which might only confuse you even more, while others are just naturally happy most of the time. The act of defining a specific emotion can even be confusing to some people. When people speak of love, they are often speaking about something else. Lust or a need for stability may be called love. But it's just lust or insecurity relieved.

I believe our anger can be controlled and if that is true then anything can be. When we are confronted with an anger provoking situation, our emotions react quickly and they subjugates the intellect to support them. So the anger remains and the mind works to justify and maintain it. However, if the intellect arrives on the scene first, it can subjugate our emotions; keeping our anger under control. I have worked on this and have had modest success. Often because I forget that I can control it.

This brings up all kinds of other issues to evaluate such as; can we feel good without feeling bad, or would managing our emotion even be possible? I don’t know, but it seems to be worth consideration given the influence our emotions have on our lives. Do we even want to change them at all, since they are a large part of us? My first impulse is that we shouldn’t. But when I look at the cause of them in myself; I see that many are the result of random events; so why shouldn’t I control them. I shouldn’t react to situations based upon a single experience, but sometimes I do, especially if it was threatening or harmful; so my emotional can be biased and I need to be aware of that, too. The answers to these questions will be important to our future Emolvement.

Emotions 2.0

Emotions Revisited

Thinking about computers, I noticed that as I have started to manage my emotions; I have become more rational. According to Hawkins (see Levels of Consciousness) this step of rationality represents a higher level of consciousness. However, he indicates that we must accept our emotions again to grow further. Recognizing our humanity may make it easier to forgive ourselves and others: something I find hard to do sometimes. 

                The idea of being both rational and emotional seems to be in conflict. However, if we decide to manage our emotions we can find a wonderful balance. We can feel our emotions, while still being rational and human. It is our unintended reactions to stress provoking situations that must be changed. Some get angry and punch walls or worse. It happens so fast, that the reaction appears as if it hasn’t been thought out. There are many automatic reactions to emotions. 

                Sometimes they come from our emotional memory. This is formed from conception to age two, before we develop our frontal lobes which give us the capacity for conscious memory. Therefore in some situations we react emotionally without even knowing why. This suggests that this time period is critical to the development of a mature human and those younger than three must be given a safe, healthy and loving environment to minimize negative emotional memories.

                If we look at the random appearance of emotions and add to that our almost random reaction to them; I wonder how best to proceed. I don’t like the behaviors and feelings that I have due to someone else’s programs, but can I restructure them to be of my choosing? For example, what if I chose to program myself to be happy when I think it’s appropriate? Can I do that? I know it's possible. I have already been programmed by society to feel good when I get and spend money; even if it is for something I don’t need. I feel good when I acquire assets. These are temporary states of euphoria and happiness and they take precedence over longer term rewards that come from giving and compassion.                  

                To fully embrace our selves we must also embrace our emotions and to improve the outcomes of our efforts, we must learn forgiveness. We must do this for ourselves as well as others. We are human and we make mistakes. By the time I had reached the age of twenty-one, I had made many mistakes and I continued to do so. I had to rationally accept them and I had to forgive myself. After all, I’m only human.

                 To make changes in the actions I perform and yet I dislike some kind of reprogramming is necessary. I have used Intentional meditation for what had previously been referred to as self hypnosis. Instead of a mantra, synchronize your breathing with "I will" or "I am" when breathing in and then inserting the desired change when exhaling. One can insert happy, patient, calm or anything to be changed. In Biblical times breath was equated with the holy spirit, so it is important to keep it synchronized.     

    

Why do We Lean at Football Games?

Why Do We Lean at Football Games?

I have found this to be a fun question to ask. At many sporting events, people will lean to make a field goal attempt go through the uprights. We also lean to make golf balls move. Interestingly, the coaches and players seem to lean the most. It appears that all people gyrate while watching practically any sport with a ball or similar object in play, in order to manipulate an inanimate object. I think this is odd given that there are no measurable results for this behavior. Sporting events are the only environment in which this behavior is acceptable. We don’t gyrate for results at the office, for example. Usually.

We act as though we are telekinetic when we are at sporting events. The whole crowd tries to influence the ball by leaning or other movements. Children also do it in street games. It appears as if this behavior is innate. If it is, then where does it come from? It isn’t directly taught since we are unaware of it, so what is the reason we do it? Are our children just mimicking what they see?

It could be suggested that this is something we do as a result of our ego. We want to be part of the game in some way so we “help” by leaning. This contribution makes us a part of the team. Unfortunately, we also seem to do this when we are alone, so this rational might not apply. The solitary golfer will also lean to push the ball into the hole. Therefore. this may just be part of the answer, 

It could also be an example of genetic memory. This would suggest that this ability lies within our genes. If this is true, it would suggest that we were once able to move objects with our minds or will be able to in the future. This would make it a currently undiscovered ability.

A third explanation is that this is the beginning of our ability to become telekinetic. These actions may somehow start to work. This would be the beginning of an Emolvement in us. Especially, when people learn to see the ball go into the hole through visualization. Later, will we visualize to make our paperwork or other tools and materials go where we want them to, just by thought? I have no idea but to me this behavior represents that something is happening here.

Finally, it may simply be desire. But, the universality of this action appears to rule that out.

If this behavior isn’t a skill waiting for us to discover; will we create this ability by constantly trying? One might argue that we may manifest this ability because this is a skill we desire. It may be more a question of when rather than if.

The answers will appear over time, but I think this is a fun question to ask ourselves. It’s great for social events with open minded guests and someone might actually know the answer. Like all blogs I would love to hear from you.

The Problems of Social Media and Texting

                                            The Problems of Social Media and Texting

Talk about attention seeking behavior. Look at Facebook. During the 1950's a social psychologist found that 90% of people like to have their picture taken. To me, this suggests many possibilities. One is the quest for mortality or even validation of their existence. But, I believe that much of this stems from the lack of attention we receive as children and what kind of attention was it. Was it loving or hateful? There are other kinds of course but these extremes illustrate the issue well enough for now. Regardless, there just isn't enough attention to go around, so many compete for it. Often using the kind they are most familiar with, either loving, hateful or whatever they know. Often there is no substance to their message or it is incorrect and this imbalance needs to be corrected

Since we can't create more attention, we must lower the demand. Again, we must look at emotional memory for the solution and it will take time and effort. 

This desire has spawned an enormous social media presence; paving the way for more communication through computers. The 2020 Coronavirus Pandemic has further encouraged this and we have considered how this will affect our relationships and even quality of communication. Personally, the least intimate form of communication I can endure are phone calls. This is for several reasons. Currently, I cannot meet people is person, but more importantly the communication is fluid. I often think of something to add when I speak of a related topic. Speaking is also part of thinking, since we must organize each thought before it is spoken. That isn't the case is emails, since they can be edited and the topic is constrained. This limitation won't create innovation only computer-like communication.  

Our technological advancement is affecting different age groups in different ways. For those who finished school before the laptop, these changes are demanding; making some feel as though society has left them behind. Surfing Social Media often represents the extent of their computer skills; especially if their work doesn't require them. Unfortunately, this group is unfamiliar with the twists and turns created my unsubstantiated claims, while those who grew up with Social Media easily avoid these rabbit holes and generally ignore baseless claims. Therefore, there are increasing amounts of inaccurate information which is terribly ironic since the whole of human knowledge is available to anyone and yet many of us ignore that to find information that reinforces our beliefs...regardless of the truth of the matter. These tainted opinions often create conflict; making the quality of our communication worse.

In addition, most communication is non-verbal and much of this is also lost. Body language, tone of voice and volume are all missing using social media. We use it a lot because it is fast and efficient. We can send infinite amounts of data... all without any emotional content. We might express emotions through additional text or add emojis, but these fall short. Sarcasm is often misunderstood and may eventually vanish as a form of communication because of our new reliance on texting.

We will communicate more and more in this way and we might find that doing this increases our sensitivity within interpersonal contacts. We may find conflicts are more painful simply because they are less common. In fact, many of us may find ourselves with lower frustration and anger thresholds. The simple conflicts will become magnified and the big ones will become even bigger. We will stress out more easily and our happiness levels will suffer. The brevity and lack of politeness also seems to be creeping into our non-cyber lives. We are becoming less polite and by doing so; we shorten our interactions.

Without tone, sarcasm can seem threatening or hostile and direct language may be misunderstood. Computers will improve and we will all have cameras in them soon, but we will still be less transparent. The emotional portion of the communication will be dependent on the feelings of the sender and receiver being roughly the same.

For volume we can (((shout))) using parenthesis, or use caps or Bold typeface, but then we are either talking or shouting with no middle ground. Cameras will improve this as well, but we are becoming disconnected to each other. We now consider a phone call intimate, when twenty years before it was considered impersonal. We also lose pacing as hose long silence as well. This is unfortunate since all of the things outside of the actual words convey meaning, or should I say they once did. 

Computers are a part of life but we need to be aware of the limitations and somehow adapt. Otherwise what is the point of our existence as a social species? Some expect that artificial Intelligence will correct the strict rationality of technology, but there are still questions. Will the programmers be honest and benevolent and how will we watch them, especially if the programs are watching us. 

It seems to me that the ability to transfer data is a monumental improvement in information sharing. For other communication the expression of emotions is less than perfect and may even be so misunderstood as to compound any problems that existed before. It is my opinion that we have sacrificed meaning for expedience and convenience.  This also insulates us from conflict, which then magnifies the conflicts that do occur in life and our ability to maturely deal with them.

We will need Tech to solve many of our problems, but let’s tell those who design it to keep our interpersonal needs in mind. I plan on using the phone or personal meetings in the future, so as to keep my ability to deal with conflict, if it occurs.  I might even go Old School and write letters just to lend my small voice to our way of doing things in the future.

The problems created by social media and the general trend towards texting will require many of us to engage in Emolvement. Intentional meditation will help to lessen the severity of conflict as well as the loss of intimacy that results. We can minimize our frustration (a subtle way of saying anger). We live in a world of facts. Facts are often updated, as more is learned. Like the scientific method which uses a hypothesis as fact until a better one comes along. Sadly, the evolution of information is inconsistent and some point to this as a reason to ignore them. These people then become drawn to information sources and even baseless conspiracy theories to make sense of the world and reaffirm their beliefs, without any regard to their accuracy. We are dealing with facts with our emotions. This isn't a behavior, indicative of survival for a species. If I were a bird that couldn't distinguish between a piece of bark and a seed, I would not be long for this world. 

Others like to think that their common sense will guide them. Again, this falls short. Einstein remarked that common sense was only a collection of prejudices learned before adulthood. If this observation is true, common sense should be abandoned if one truly wants to grow to a higher level of consciousness. Prejudice must be eliminated since they can't co-exist. The current situation will require us to grow and adapt. Emolvement can provide us with the tools to adapt to the loss of intimacy, increased frustration and restore our confidence through Intentional meditation as long as we are willing to do the work.

 

 

Do Opposites Attract?

Do Opposites attract?

With magnets and iron they do. I was taught this important maxim by sixth grade in science class. It read on the chalkboard “Opposites Attract” and we were shown a magnetic experiment. This experiment was designed to show properties of magnetism. We were shown a magnet and a small bar of iron. But somehow, this idea has permeated our culture and become a a widely held belief in our society and we apply it to everything. This ends up confusing us. We say that love is the opposite of hate when in fact the opposite of anything is nothing Apathy is both the opposite of love and hate. They are similar since these are strong emotions there. When neither party cares anymore is when the relationship is over.

I believe that with regard to living things; like attracts like. Either by our actions or our energy; we attract like-minded people to ourselves. (We weren't taught about magnetic fields) The misperception of this phenomenon is another speed bump to our growth.  Confusion leads to stress and diminishes your calm and therefore your ability to connect with your unconscious.

Once we recognize this subtle but important flaw in our way of thinking our environment becomes a little more transparent and your growth will be less impaired. As you grow you will attract others with similar values.  We already do it. Those who have committed to certain way of life or share belief systems usually find themselves subtly attracted to each other.

There is no place where this attitude is more prevalent when it comes to dating and marriage. Life Science and others have assembled some data on this. When looking for a partner, Pieternel Dijkstra a researcher from the Netherlands indicated that 85.7% of people claim to want someone who had opposite traits. “Our popular theory is that opposites attract”. Unfortunately her theory cannot be proven. These relationships start well, but decay over time, usually at about six months.

A study by the University of Iowa in 2005 found that “Like minded people validate each other’s beliefs and values leading to fewer conflicts”. A popular dating site reported that the majority of users were looking for some who balance their own traits, essentially an opposite. These relationships usually succeeded at first, but they usually failed after about six months, while those who sought partners similar to themselves had a higher success rate in maintaining long term relationships. These studies seem to conclude that like attracts like. The notion of opposites attracting has been seen in the short term but the attraction wanes because of conflicts.

Your selection of a partner may have a huge impact on your life and we all should be aware of that. We may be looking for opposites when we should be looking for like-minded people in our relationships. The choices we make or don’t make regarding the people in our lives can have an impact on our state of mind and therefore on our ability to change and grow.

The same is true for friendships. In some cases they can actually what can only be described as a group mind. Everyone has the same belief system and they reinforce it in each other. To disagree is to risk social disconnection and this further reinforces the group mind. It is true for corporations, although the larger they are the less this is found. Cities and Universities have a collective identity, which is on full display every fall on Saturday and Sunday. 

In a sense, these are like the human collective unconscious, but much smaller. They are rarely as large as the collective mind that Donald Trump has created. It is so large that it threatens Democracy itself and is reminiscent of Adolf Hitler since both command gigantic cults of personality. Every member shares Trump's ideas and ideals regardless of their feasibility or logic. 

 

Intentional Meditation

    Intentional Meditation

Basically, meditation involves thinking a mantra (A word or phrase) in concert with your breathing. Do this repetitively in a comfortable position in a quiet place. A simple example would be to think to yourself, “breathe in” when you take a long breath. Then when you exhale think, “Breathe out”. This can be repeated for minutes or hours. It can be done daily or more or less often.  The longer and more often this is done the better the results. There are many types and methods for meditation, but this the most simple. When you do this you are very relaxed and you are using your conscious by thinking and controlling an unconscious activity by breathing. When you do this. The conscious and unconscious minds both become involved and they overlap a little. This is the first step in establishing a real connection between the conscious and unconscious mind.

As you improve, you may change your Mantras. A common one is “Peace” while breathing in and “Be Still” when exhaling. People often notice their pulse and respiration slowing. This is good.  Some people cross their legs; cutting off circulation so more oxygen goes to the brain. It is important to be comfortable, so that you have the fewest distractions possible. Avoiding distractions may be most important as you begin. As you improve you will find that you can meditate almost anywhere. This isn't a new idea and was initially referred to as self-hypnosis. Then the idea was to hypnotize yourself in order to change because a state of hypnosis also brings the unconscious closer. However, I believe Intentional Meditation is more accurate and the word hypnosis carries un-necessary baggage which would only divert us from our goal.

For the purposes of Emolvement; we can change the purpose of meditation to be more intention oriented. Mantras are often passive and unchanging. With intentional meditation, initially called self-hypnosis, you can be more proactive. Here we can place orders for changes in ourselves. It is the same as repeating a mantra except an action oriented command is inserted, such as, “I will...Brush my Teeth”. We all have many programs. They are behaviors that we have been taught or just picked up or didn't. Some are useful, but some are not. This technique allows us to add new programs and eliminate those unwanted ones

It can be confidence building or changes in your body. Even your emotions are changeable. “I am …strong or confident”: “I am…calm” or even “I am…losing weight” are suggestions for making these changes, but use your own words. They will come from you and will be best understood by you. Try to avoid negatives. With anger I find that" I am ...anger-free" works well. But being calm may be more effective for some. This is just to demonstrate that your definitions regarding specific words could be as important as the commands you select. So be clear.

As you advance, you might use two alternating commands and later three...  then four. This pushes the commands deeper into your unconscious because you must concentrate on them to keep from losing one. After you can use several alternating commands, start changing the order. In a sense, you are now juggling. This requires even more concentration and will produce better results; since you have to remember the next command in order before the next breath. Nothing will replace the amount of actual time you put in, however. This is how your unconscious realizes how serious you are. It will respond after it hears consistent commands. We are usually so inconsistent in deciding what is important to us; changing our desires as we see new things. By repetition, the unconscious can be sure that this is what you really want.

Once you substitute commands for mantras, you may begin to notice that your commands start to appear in your behavior. Once you see this, you will know in your mind what you already knew in your heart. People can change in a forward-looking proactive manner instead of reacting to adapt. We have always known how to adapt. But we have less experience with intended change.

This raises many questions about what we really want to be. It can be confusing with all of the choices so start with the most obvious, be they anger or hygiene. Then some of the tougher ones will become clearer because you have eliminated much of the clutter by then. 

Also know that as you grow, you might experience some temporary discomfort as some things may have new or different values and this takes a bit of time to adjust to. But, it is a sign that you are making progress.



There are many books on the subject. Look them over and find one or more that resonate with you and then you can use this skill to change your unwanted programs.